How you rise after falling

I think rarely in your life you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You know the type of relationship when you tell someone things youʼve never shared with another soul. And they absorb everything you say, actually even want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.

When something wonderful happens, you canʼt wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think about you because they love you for who you are. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important for this person who is so special to you. Iʼm sure you know what Iʼm talking about. This is the most dangerous type of relationship. One of the biggest risk you will take in your life. Sometimes it could be wonderful and other times it becomes one of these painful memories you have to carry with you all your life.

But hereʼs a thing : Your person is going to be your person for the rest of your life. Not just when youʼre young and things are perfect, but when things get messy and the world is less shiny. You better be sure that you have someone by your side who wants to be there. Someone who wants to support you and encourage you. Someone who will listen all of your dumb jokes during years and who gives you as much as you give them. Because they are difficult things in life, really haunted things that make it heavy or hurtful at times. But love should not be one of those things. It should be your safe place, it should hold your hands and help you brave those storms. So, if I can give you an advice... donʼt give the best parts of yourself to someone who doesnʼt see the value in what they are receiving. Donʼt settle for anyone who doesnʼt look at you and know, without hesitation, that they want to stay. Itʼs never easy to walk away, especially when you invested so much of yourself into making things work. By the time you finally decide to leave, you know you gave countless chances and debated the idea, over and over in your head. You’re probably exhausted or heartbroken to have to walk away but you did that because you choose to love yourself more than anyone else.

I can tell you over and over to leave the situation, but you wonʼt until you are ready. One day you will wake up and realize that this isnʼt what you want to feel like anymore and youʼll be done. Happiness is a choice not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. Do yourself a favor and learn to walk away. All of that to share with you something that I still try to learn and understand. When the connection starts to fade, learn how to let go. When a person starts to mistreat you, please donʼt force it and move on to something or someone better. Dont waste your energy trying to force something that isnʼt meant to be... because the truth is... for EVERY one person who doesnʼt value you - there are tons waiting to love you better and do better. And if you are in a sad mood right know, I can promise you that times heals everything.

This is you accepting that sometimes beautiful things end and understanding that there is nothing that you can say, or do, to fix that. Itʼs coming to the term that sometimes ending donʼt have to be messy. And keeping in your mind, how incredible it really is- that for a moment, in a world of billions, two strangers were in the right place, at the right time. You guys were probably meant to be but both of you did it wrong.

The things that break you, teach you how to survive. They make you see things for what they really are, not how you want to see them. They give you faith because you know that God broke those things for a reason, and removed certain people from your life because they werenʼt going to bless it. They break you but give you answers about yourself and others. They give you guidelines for the future. Thereʼs always something rewarding after every loss. Sometimes you find yourself, sometimes you find someone better and sometimes you find God. In all cases, you win.

I realize that the secret to be free is no revenge. After all, what matter is not the first, but the last chapter of our life which show how well we ran the race. So if you are in a situation where you are a little lost and hurting, let all your fears go, set yourself free, and donʼt be afraid to fall in love again. It can be a blessing or a curse and itʼs up to you.

Love.

Ps : merci à Mamita pour la correction de ce texte ❤️